Getting Started Guide

Though you can use Choresight as a traditional to-do list, the magic comes from an essential mindset shift:

These aren't tasks. They're loops — recurring moments to notice what needs attention.

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The Mindset Shift

When something comes up due in Choresight, it's due to think about — not necessarily due to do.

The point is brain training. Looking at a loop, thinking about it, and deciding it doesn't need doing right now is still a win. You noticed. That's the skill you're building.

Over time, you'll start noticing things before Choresight reminds you. The hamper filling up. The fridge running low. The floor that needs sweeping. When that happens, Choresight has done its job.

Step 1: The Brain Dump (with your partner)

If you share a household with a partner, start here. Schedule 30 minutes together.

What to do:

  1. Each person lists every recurring task they can think of. Don't filter. Don't judge. Just dump. Cleaning, cooking, kids, pets, yard, car, bills, appointments — everything.
  2. Compare lists. You'll probably notice gaps. Tasks one person sees that the other doesn't. That's the invisible labor becoming visible.
  3. Discuss who notices what. Not who does what — who notices. This is the mental load conversation.
  4. Add loops to Choresight together. Set intervals that make sense. Don't overthink it — you can adjust later.
  5. Skip what you already notice. Don't add loops for things you already do without reminding. Choresight is for building new habits, not tracking existing ones.

One-off tasks: Not everything is a loop. Sometimes you just need to remember to do something once — "buy birthday gift," "schedule dentist." Add these with the interval set to 0 days and 0 hours. They'll go to Needs Sorting and disappear when completed, no repeat.

Tip: This conversation might be uncomfortable. That's okay. The goal isn't to assign blame — it's to make the invisible visible so you can share it.

Step 2: The Daily Check-in (with yourself)

This is the habit that makes Choresight work. Pick a time — morning coffee, lunch break, or evening wind-down — and make it a ritual. Schedule "check Choresight" as your first loop when you have time available for chores.

Each day:

  1. Open Choresight. Look at your "Must" column.
  2. For each loop, decide:
    • Do it now?
    • Schedule it for a specific day this week?
    • Snooze it (life happens)?
  3. Move on. Don't spend more than 2-3 minutes. This is a quick scan, not a planning session.

The point isn't to complete everything. The point is to see everything. To hold the full picture of what your household needs in your mind, even briefly.

Step 3: The Weekly Reset

Once a week (Saturday morning works well), do a slightly longer check-in.

Review:

  • What got done this week?
  • What got pushed repeatedly? (Maybe the interval is wrong, or it's not actually important.)
  • Is anything missing? Add it.
  • What did you notice on your own — before Choresight reminded you? Celebrate those moments. That's the habit forming.

Balance habits and outcomes:

Compare what you noticed to what actually got done. Strike the balance: celebrate the growing awareness, but don't lose sight of outcomes. The goal is both — noticing and doing.

Plan:

  • Look at the week ahead. Anything big coming up?
  • Drag loops to specific days if it helps you plan.

This is also a good time to check in with your partner. "Here's what I'm seeing for the week. What are you seeing?"

Common Questions

"What if I notice something not in Choresight?"

Great! Add it. Or just do it. The goal is noticing, not tracking everything forever.

"What if my partner doesn't want to use the app?"

That's okay. You can use Choresight solo. The brain training works regardless. And sometimes, when your partner sees you noticing more, they get curious.

"How do I know when I don't need Choresight anymore?"

When you start noticing things before the app reminds you. When you're adding loops after you've already done them, just to track the pattern. When your partner says "you've been different lately." That's when it's working.

Remember

Choresight is a guide, not a scorecard.

The goal isn't a perfect record of completed tasks. The goal is to become someone who sees what needs doing — without being asked.

That shift changes everything.